It was at the end of August 2017 that I realized I was tired. It wasn’t “I’m gonna have a fatigue attack” tired but the ” you’re only a couple steps before an attack” type of tired.
My lungs would start to tighten.
My soul and mind were wound up and jumpy.
“What could I change in this day or week?” I began to ask myself.
“When is my next break that is a chunk of time?” I questioned.
“Why have I let myself get this weary?” I queried.
These were the questions that kept rolling through my mind.
My mind was trying to find a solution to the problem but to do that well I’d need to sit down and actually answer the questions and made some choices.
Learning to acknowledge and act on my body’s warning lights has been monumental in me learning to prevent physical crashes that take a long time to recover from.
Developing body awareness has also led to more peace because I know when I am respecting my body and its requests we are working as a unit like we were created to.
My body, soul and mind were created to work together but it has taken me an embarrassing amount of time to begin to learn to act on that truth. The long and short of it is that it’s worth it!
Warning lights are there for a reason. In our vehicles when the fuel light comes on we know our moments of movement are numbered.
Warning lights signal a choice point. Will we act now? Will we act later? Will we choose not to act at all?
In real life, what are your body’s indicators that something is off? Do you get headaches or tummy aches more frequently? Are you dragging around at a time of day you used to be productive? Are you unable to get to sleep or stay asleep?
What is your normal for your body? Are you a morning person or a mid day person or an evening person? Do you feel like you’ve lost yourself in the midst of the circumstances that consume each of your days?
If your response to the last question was,”YES!” Then I want to say, “Congratulations on acknowledging where you are at. Great job, taking time to read this blog. Please know that it was written with you in mind. There are things in your life you can change that will bring you back to who you were made to be. God’s creation daily enjoying His presence and leading in your life.”
Taking time to become aware of your current physical state and comparing it to your former state is rather painful at times but it is a necessary starting point for change. Please, believe me it will be worth it!!!
The fact may be that your ideal physical state isn’t currently realistic. When I was in the deep throes of chronic fatigue I would have LOVE to get up and be active but well I simply could not. However knowing I wanted action and how action alleviated the feeling of being trapped in a body that wouldn’t cooperate led to being creative. Driving a quad because taking a walk wasn’t an option help “fix” my warning lights of panic,pity and frustration in some of those moments replacing those emotions with joy, thanksgiving and a sense of freedom.
Becoming aware of what your warning lights are will take some practice but it is well worth it because then you can respond in a positive and an efficient way and this will greatly benefit you.
It’s normal for our bodies to get tired and even sick this is simply part of life on earth and in these earthly bodies BUT we short change ourselves if we don’t take the steps needed to respect and protect our bodies especially when they are lite up with warning signs.
For those of you who are aware of your warning signs but have been told by your doctors there is nothing they can do. HUGS!!!! That super sucks to hear!!! I have been there which is why I can safely and confidently say, “They are wrong!” There is always something we can do to listen to our warning lights granted it might not fix the chronic illness BUT any action steps will definitely help you feel some relief and some control over your situation and even encouragement that there can be more joy in your life.
Let’s break it down.
We wake up exhausted then stressed. We acknowledge that we are exhausted and stressed.
What are some logical action steps we can implement?
We are exhausted therefore we could: A) go to bed earlier the next night B) do some gentle exercise to get our bodies going C) eat a healthy breakfast
We are stressed therefore we could: A) acknowledge the source of our stress and then decide if we will trust God with that worry or continue to carry it B) look for something in our day that we could move to a different time C) plan a stress relieving event/break somewhere in our day
I know it sounds obvious but we all have choices daily. Doing nothing in the face of our warning lights is a choice. I know when we are exhausted with numerous warning lights flared up it’s hard to put work into creating and taking action steps BUT dear friends, that is the only way to make a change. Please, believe me it will be worth it!!!
We begin to make this change by taking one warning light at a time. After we acknowledge it we take one positive action step to address the issue. It doesn’t have to be a huge step something simple works best because then we can easily do it again. Then we cheer for ourselves and tell a friend, perhaps a person who blogs on self-care:) and then we press on. Daily celebrating that we are growing in taking care of ourselves by taking care of our warning lights.
Getting back to the gas gauge analogy I honestly react more positively and quickly to prevent the inevitable consequences of ignoring the warning light than I do when my own body gives me a distress signal.
You know and I know deep down in our spirit that we should be taking better care of ourselves but somewhere between our self condemnation, exhaustion and busy lives we ignore the signals and then feel angry, embarrassed or defeated when we have to live with the consequences.
Let’s choose to stop doing that. We can. It will take practice but it’s worth it and it’s our responsibility. We were after all created by Almighty God to honor Him with our lives and bodies.
We are also being watched by others. What a beautiful gift we could give them, the gift of self- care! The gift of listening and responding to our bodies so that our lives can reflect balance, joy, peace and kindness. I don’t know about you but I want to model that for my kids. I believe this is the life God planned for us.
So why won’t we accept the gift He has given by believing and acting on the warning signals our body sends us?
How many times a day do we override our bodies requests? Let’s take a little survey:
How many times a day do I ignore my body’s request for food? 1 2 3 or more
How many times a day do I ignore my body’s request for sleep? 1 2 3 or more
How many times a day do I ignore my body’s request to use the washroom now or soon? 1 2 3 or more
If your answers are like mine, we both know we are reading this blog for a reason, it is time to trade in this debilitating habit for a new one.
Our bodies requests aren’t huge.
Our bodies requests don’t need scientists to discern what the answers are.
So what is holding us back from responding efficiently to their pleas?
I know often I feel inconvenienced by my body’s requests therefore I “push” the ignore button until plea turns into a demand and in the past a hostage situation because my body has shut down because I ignored it’s reasonable request too many times.
When I worked through my losses in a grief recovery program the first loss I had to deal with was the loss of my health. I was annoyed and even embarrassed to have to go to through the grief recovery process regarding my body but as I did the work I discovered freedom and peace. I became aware that my body and I have actually been on the same team all my life and I have simply been angry at it for when it has “failed” me without being thankful and appreciative of all it does for me daily. I know find when my body doesn’t feel great I am more gently with it and I know it sounds weird but it does calm my soul to acknowledge all the work my body has done for me and that we are on the same team.
Let’s ask God to help us this week be more aware of the warning signs we are experiencing and for the wisdom and discipline to act on these requests. Let’s ask God to change our view of our bodies from breaking down machines to His magnificent creation where His Holy Spirit has chosen do dwell. Let’s believe that God doesn’t view us taking care of our bodies as being selfish but as being good steward of what He has entrusted us. Let’s ask Him to open our eyes to enjoy the gift of having the ability to choose to make little choices daily that will bless our bodies and those around us by extension.
He gave us warning lights for a reason let’s believe them and respond a little faster to their plea this week.
Please don’t let this task overwhelm you just keep living one step at a time making the choice that will most benefit your body. Please reach out to me if you need help processing what this looks like for you. I would love to connect with each of you.
And pretty please let’s CELEBRATE our victories of responding more willingly to our warning lights by posting a comment or emoticon or telling a friend we are after all all in this together;)